Destigmatize Your Desire with Ev’Yan Whitney

Destigmatize Your Desire with Ev’Yan Whitney

Let’s talk about sex, baby... but for real though! Black Girl In Om Founder, Lauren Ash and Art Director, Deun Ivory are sharing all types of fortifying, affirming, and healing thoughts on this topic with the sexually liberating and exceptional educator, Ev’Yan Whitney. As Ev’Yan once shared on their Instagram, “a womxn doesn’t have to be modest to be respected” and we are all the way here for it, their message, and the things they share on their platforms. In this incredibly enriching, honest conversation, we explore sexuality and sensuality in a way we’ve never done before. We’re discussing trauma, the importance of therapy, real deal self-awareness, and so much more. You definitely want to get your journals out for this one because Ev'Yan has a number of questions you should ask yourself to explore your own liberation right now. Ev'Yan Whitney is at peace with their sexuality. By sharing the wisdom held in this conversation, we’re manifesting the same for all of you.

IN THIS EPISODE, YOU’LL FIND OUT ABOUT:

• Why this is such an important conversation to chat through as a community, especially as Black womxn

• The unique journey Ev'Yan took to their current life path

• How Ev'Yan was able to make the shift to own their sexual pleasure

• A series of questions that gradually brought Ev'Yan to a meaningful awakening 

• How Black women and femmes can step into their relationship with sex, in their own terms

• The importance of prioritizing a personal relationship vs. a performative relationship with sexuality

• How Ev'Yan actually defines a sexual relationship with self and different examples of how it can manifest

• Sexual self-care and how you can create it in your daily life (shout out to our favorite body butter for all eternity)

• Ways to combat stigmas around initiating and stating the things you desire

• The way an early relationship can create long standing trauma

• The evolution of Ev'Yan’s partnered relationship through this journey

• A possible connection to the throat chakra Ev'Yan is exploring in their own life + how it ties back to this confident Libra

• Steps one can take to overcome sexual trauma in a major way

• The space Deun is creating for us to do the healing we need

• A transformational experience Lauren experienced at the top this year that ties back a previous guest of the show, Danielle Lyles Barton [Danielle episode]

• The way this conversation relates to an important theme of last year — read through some of the work exploring it here [http://www.blackgirlinom.com/publication-articles?tag=Soft+%26+Strong]
  

Quotes From The Episode:

“Everything is completely Divine, even the things we consider our lows.” — @deunivory | click to tweet

“Having these conversations, especially as Black women... we have already done some healing work.” — @HelloLaurenAsh | click to tweet

“For so long, I was witnessing other people’s expressions of sexuality and thinking that I had to be that.” — @evyanwhitney | click to tweet

“What would it look like for me to be a sexually liberated woman?” — @evyanwhitney | click to tweet

“It has to start with you giving yourself permission to think about it, to talk about it, to explore it, to really dig into it.” — @deunivory | click to tweet

“I believe that your sexual energy is an intrinsic part of you.” — @evyanwhitney | click to tweet

“Let’s bring some focus and gentle energy into the sexual relationship you have with yourself.” — @evyanwhitney | click to tweet

“Sexual self-care focuses on your internal landscape, your emotional landscape, and how important that is to having sex.” — @evyanwhitney | click to tweet

“I’m not going to shrink myself. I’m not going to make my requests or my wants or my desires small.” — @evyanwhitney | click to tweet

“We are allowed to experience pleasure.” — @evyanwhitney | click to tweet

“Therapy allowed me to give strength, love, compassion, and even forgiveness to that part of myself that was made vulnerable and didn’t know any better.” — @evyanwhitney | click to tweet

“You’re not alone. It wasn’t your fault. We believe you.” — @evyanwhitney | click to tweet

“The trauma that Black women and Black femmes have sustained regarding their sexuality is so nuanced.” — @evyanwhitney | click to tweet

“It’s in spaces with other women who can relate to us that we actually finally feel the ability to exhale.” — @HelloLaurenAsh | click to tweet

“The more that we have these conversations, the more we bring it into the light and we release the stigma.”— @evyanwhitney | click to tweet